Solution below.
Um... I do consider it fixed. Thanks for the help - I definitely appreciate it. Not trying to beat a dead horse but the spanner actually greatly improves Z repeatability and isn't binding at all.
Check out the photo of my last print in post 15 and let me know if you see anything that looks like it still needs attention. The last two pics are from different prints and the bottom one is pretty good if you ask me. More pics - first is all of the prints (leftmost is first test print, rightmost is final good print after the bad ones), second is close up of good print.


[SOLUTION]
Slic3r > Advanced > Top Solid Infill was trying to use unacceptable widths.
TL/DR: Default extrusion width was bad and using the % modifier in slic3r instead of telling it real mm value hid the problem until I looked at the gcode to see that widths were very different from values acceptable for my nozzle size.
Long Story: My Slic3r was just outputting some unexpected widths and setting all widths explicitly back to my tuned width solved the wierd behavior on the top layer. I'm not sure why it was making weird widths except that I had managed to change settings enough over time that it wasn't obvious to me that it was sometimes going down to widths of 0.24mm!! No wonder it wasn't sticking to the previous layer! History of the issue - I had changed back to all default "0" values when doing maintenence last week and instead of using explicit mm widths, I had started using % widths. The 0.24mm was from a Slic3r>Advanced> "top solid infill" setting of 80% which means that my 100% was apparently 0.3mm width and my original (when the problem first appeared) of 105% was only 0.32mm. This also explains why the other infill layers (which stayed at 0.42 for some reason) still looked good.
Using Z-lift just became part of my preferred settings over time to minimize knocking around any slight warped area but I'll play with it today on the next part of this project enclosure. The next part will be the bottom which will hold the Arduino whereas the top is what you've been seeing
SD3, RUMBA, 360W power, ABS: Glass bed + Aquanet Extra Super Hold Hairspray, Anti-backlash Z spanner, Repetier Host + Slic3r