Thanks.
If I decide to discard the Solidoodle hot end, I will do it with a vengeance, not piecemeal. I'm tired of both printers being down day after day after day, and not a single peep from Solidoodle's "support" team. They sold me a defective part. They do not seem to care.
I pulled the solder out of the crimp connector, inserted the wires from the heating resistor, and then crimped everything by squeezing the entire connector in a needle nosed pliers. At this point, things are solid (although I did not have the courage to try to pull very hard).
We now understand why the wires lengths changed: they are using the leads from the power resistor to go directly into the connector. This also may explain why the connection between the leads and the connector is not optimal.
Once you try to reassemble the hot end into the peek, the rectangular aluminum piece does not rotate around the threaded rod, because it is too big, and hits the front of the Y axis mounting piece. This means that reassembly is very difficult, because you have to pre-load the aluminum block to the correct number of turns before you start reinserting the threaded rod in the peek. Very frustrating. It would be easy to do if I dismounted everything from the carriage, but that involves a different kind of frustration. The whole thing is a jig saw puzzle.