If the teensy window isn't popping up after verifying/compiling you probably don't have the right board selected. Did you download and install the teensy add-on?

So you are hung up in steps (roughly 20-25)?
First thing is did you create and move from the hidden files the new Marlin.cpp.hex into the BootloaderHID folder on your desktop?

Yes I moved it to the bootloaderHID folder, and I'm pretty sure I'm typing it in CMD right, it just keeps saying "error reading intel hex file "Marlin.cpp.hex."
The only thing different than your directions is that when I go to sketch-verify I do not get a popup from teensy, it just comes up with byte size fairly quickly.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_ … 3d+hot+end

my point is amazon is carrying the E3D hotend for about 20 bucks more than is on the filastruder website and was makign a back handed joke at amazon ripping people off

just saw this today and was curious http://www.filastruder.com/products/all … -v6-hotend maybe this is the real reason amazon doesn't want to link to us lol

I am confused as to what you think the connection is?  Further more there are topics discussing the advertising and issues with Amazon.  Wouldn't that be a more appropriate location for this post?

Ive just noticed somethinng I think the thermistor they sent me is the 25w version not the 40w as the wire is blue not all red like it is shown on thew ebsite the one I have must be the 25w versionn is this correct.

You'd be talking about the heat cartridge not the thermistor.  If it has the blue wires it could be either the 12v 25watt heater or the 24v 25 watt heater.  I think I would check with your supplier to be sure you understand what you have.  If it is indeed the 12v 25 watt heater that will be just fine.  The difference is next to nothing as far as heat up times and overall performance.
If it ends up being the 24v version you will need to exchange it.

To me, it sounds like you goofed somewhere in the firmware, or there is a disturbance/break in the the lines for either the heater or the thermistor. The thermistor is extremely delicate, and I have gone through many from breakage....so my vote is on the thermistor.

+1 to wardjr on soldering. The v6 should come with wires plus a connector for the thermistor, then crimped with the ferrule provided. For the heater, depending on your board, you will either be able to strip, insert, then tighten the wires at the terminal, or you will splice into the existing lines, twist each old/new lines with a simple knot, then use some heatshrink to shield them.